If you find yourself falling for a girl who is involved with another guy or who you know has a crush on someone else, you may be unsure how to win her over. Below are a few things you should consider if you want to figure out how to get a girl even if she likes someone else.
Become Her Friend
You might worry doing this will push you into the “friend zone”, but becoming friends with the girl in question allows you to get to know her and for her to get to know you. Think of it like getting your foot in the door.
Show an interest in her and start to form a bond. You can always use techniques from the Girlfriend Activation System to reset her impression of you if it feels like you’re falling too much into the “friend zone trap”.
Once you get to know her, show her how you truly appreciate the person she is by sincerely complimenting something nonphysical about her. This shows her that you not only pay attention to her on a non-physical level but that you also appreciate her.
Do things for her you’d do for any friend. Help her with something that she needs, make her laugh, share inside jokes, and comfort her, but don’t always be available. Otherwise, she will just take advantage of you, and you’ll become her doormat. By forging this friendship, she may begin to like things about you that your competition doesn’t have.
Show Her You’re Trustworthy
Girls want to know they can trust their friends, especially their male friends. This trust will make her more open to the idea of you being in her inner circle be it as a friend or partner.
In order to do this, you’ll have to act natural around her. Treat her as you would any other friend. She’ll see that you’re not faking your personality and that you’re genuine.
This also means you should refrain from flirting with her…for now. This might be hard since you’re attracted to her, but it might ruin your chances. You don’t want to be the homewrecker who tries to ruin her relationship with someone else. Be patient. Your time will come.
In addition, try to spend time with her alone where you can both talk. This will strengthen your friendship and can help push things to another level as she grows more and more comfortable with you one on one.
Make sure these times are full of quality conversation where you listen to what she has to say and keep engaged with her completely. Similarly, share things about yourself so she knows the real you.
Take A Chance And Express Your Feelings
Once you’ve established a good friendship with her, eventually the day will come when you need to tell her how you feel. Figuring out how to get a girl even if she likes someone else isn’t easy, and you’ll never be able to do it without admitting your feelings.
Before taking the plunge, be sure you really do want something more than just friendship, since revealing your feelings might mean you lose her for good. Just remember, it’s a risk worth taking if she’s really the woman you want.
Revealing romantic feelings for someone is a selfish task, but there are ways to make the whole process easier on her and you. For example, she might feel self-conscious when you admit your feelings for her so take that into consideration and try to express your feelings in a healthy and gentle way.
Stating that you’ve developed feelings for her throughout the friendship and you can’t ignore them anymore is better than blurting out that you’ve liked her romantically from the get-go, and you can’t imagine her being with any other guy.
During this conversation, pay attention to the things she says and does. If she attempts to change the subject or walk away, take the hint and keep the conversation short and to the point before excusing yourself. Finally, respect her decision even if it’s not the one you were hoping for.